I think Jack's sexual harrassment isn't harrassment, as such. He'd stop, or not even start, if someone was uncomfortable with it. We only think to call it that, really, because Ianto joked about it, and there was nothing in Ianto's delivery that hinted at him seeing it in a negative light.

And I am answering you in reverse, but whatever. I possibly do take fanfic too seriously, but it's the proliferation of the trope and the fact that people don't seem to think about it that worries me.

Of course, I don't particularly like thinking about photos or videos of the boys naked (which is why my favourite erotic scenes involve layers), so maybe I'm just more objective or just want the footage deleted. Idk.