I'm only just getting to know people outside of fic, so I'm misstepping as you do at this stage. But she's not friends with me, I don't think, so she won't see this anyway.

I think Gwen and Ianto are like that because of the wars. It'd be like supporting both England and Australia, you just can't do it. It's England and whoever's playing Australia, or visa versa. Pick your side and support it fair or foul sort of thing. (Yes, everything is a cricket metaphor at the moment). Some people can, of course, but a lot can't contemplate it.