I'm not sure I'd use fanficrants as a gague of the "rightness" or "wrongness" of anything. You've got people over there who as entertaining as it might be at times, like to pick at lint because they've got nothing better to do.

Generally, if you feel something is kind of skeevy, then it probably is. What you have to ask yourself is the skeevyness appropriate for the character or is it your own bias coming through? If it's the former then leave it be. If it's the later then you should re approach the work.

If you've got specific examples that you want looked at, you can shoot me a link via livejournal messenger and I'd be happy give you concrit.